Are you a good date? If it's been a while since you've been on a real date with someone new (and if you've been in a committed relationship for any major length of time it probably has) you may have forgotten a thing or two about how to be a great date. There's no shame in it really but now is a great time re-learn the ropes so you can get your groove back.
So, what can you do to be a great date this time around and not leave you both wanting to run for the hills by the time the evening has ended?
Begin by focusing on the moment. Right now, this date is the only moment that matters. None of the dates you've had before now, the men you've loved before now, or the wrongs done to you before now matter. This date is a clean slate. If you view it like this you won't have a hard time keeping bitterness at bay and you'll both feel much more relaxed.
The more relaxed you are the better the date will feel for all involved. Remember it's a date with a man who finds you interesting and not with a military firing squad. Treat it that way.
Spend a lot of time laughing during your date. Even if you have to force the laughter a little bit. Practice will make perfect and the more you try to laugh the easier it will become to laugh. Remember the most important rule of laughter while dating though. It's always wise to try and laugh with your date and never wise to laugh at your date.
Leave any pent up and left over bitterness, anger, and hurt at your front door. The man you're going out with tonight isn't likely to be the one who is responsible for those feelings and he doesn't deserve the backlash they generate. Leave them at home or your date is going to get really crowded, really fast.
Perhaps the most important rule to remember when trying to get back into the dating groove is this: be the fun woman buried deep down inside who's dying to come out and play.
You know she's there. You've been suppressing her and holding her back for quite a while now. It's time to let her out for the evening. You'll be surprised by how much fun you both manage to have before the night is over and at how charmed your date will be with the both of you.
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